letter to his son from a renown Hong Kong TV broadcaster cum Child
Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or
old, children or parents. I am writing this to you because of 3
reasons
1. Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long
one lives. Some words are better said early.
2. I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will.
3. What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps
could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches. Remember the following
as you go through life
1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one
has the responsibility of treating you well, except your
mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it
and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone
has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not
mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard
him as a real friend.
2. No one is indispensable, nothing in the world that you must
possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to
go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when
you lose what/who you love most.
3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would
find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the
better you enjoy life.
4. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with
time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be
patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don't over
exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over
exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.
5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that
does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard!
Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from
rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!
6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old,
neither would I financially support you whole life. My responsibility
as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that,you decide
whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine,
whether rich or poor.
7. You honour your words, but don't expect others to do so. You can be
good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you
don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.
8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I never strike any
prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There
is no free lunch!
9. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we
have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.
Your Dad
