The changing wind of life's circumstances?
Ask yourself, "Is my life the way I want it to be?" If not, what is
blocking you from jumping in the driver's seat of your life?
21 Truths to Living the Life Your Want
1. Understand that sustained happiness rarely comes from outside
circumstances. Your wealth, beauty, power, or acquisitions have far
less to do with happiness than your appreciation for what you have
this very moment and your loving relationships with others.
2. You can live your life by design, but you must acknowledge your
power in that, plan for it, and take the necessary actions.
3. You can't have it all, but you can have enough to be very happy.
Prioritize and focus on the top 3 or 4 most important areas of your
life.
4. Stop focusing on what you don't have or don't like. Focus on what
you do have and do like, and create a plan for what you think you can
improve and change.
5. Abandon perfectionism. It is a useless pursuit with no end. It
creates stress and unhappiness. Learn to find the balance point
between good enough and peaceful living.
6. Put your own deepest needs first. If you are living for others
before yourself and pushing your own needs aside, eventually you will
crumble in some way — through depression, anger, anxiety or
destructive behaviors.
7. Your choices may disappoint or offend others. That is sometimes
necessary in order to grow and live authentically. Those who love you
and want the best for you will accept and support you.
8. Count your blessings. You probably already have many of the things
you want for your life. Don't take them for granted.
9. Address personal issues head-on. Don't use these as an excuse for
not having what you want in life. If you have a wound, a personality
or relationship problem, or an anxiety, go to a counselor and work on
it. Resolve it. Weak people don't go to counselors, but strong
forward-moving people do.
10. Pick one small problem or irritation and resolve it. Feel how much
personal power and energy that gives you. Imagine how it would feel to
resolve one of your bigger problems or concerns.
11. Consider disengaging from people who bring you down or drain your
energy. Build relationships with people who are positive,
action-oriented, and supportive.
12. Pick the one change that would make the biggest positive
difference in your life. Begin visualizing your life with this change
implemented. Practice this regularly throughout the day.
13. Take this one step further and begin writing some specific action
steps that might help make this change happen.
14. Strengthen your strengths. Make yourself indispensable in your
area(s) of interest and expertise.
15. Always leave time for fun. Make fun happen in your life.
16. Don't neglect your relationships. Don't take them for granted.
Find out what makes your loved ones happy, and do that for them.
17. Learn to let it go. Worry is the most fruitless expenditure of
energy on the planet. Very little is worth worrying about. If you must
do something, take action instead.
18. Don't assume that you can't do something. Prove that you can't,
and if so, try something else.
19. More often than not, your fear is the culprit for inaction. More
often than not, your fears are unfounded or at least out of
proportion. More often than not, your fear will go away once you take
action.
20. Focus on the task at hand. When you feel overwhelmed and pulled in
many directions, just pick an important thing and do it without
distraction. Then do another one.
21. Life is short. You have a limited number of days on this Earth.
There isn't time to waste your days in worry, anger or frustration.
Make the most of this moment and the next and the next and the next .
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If you want to have a wonderful life, spend your days in positive,
forward-moving action and thought. Dismiss your longings for what you
don't have. Enjoy the actions as much or more than the outcomes.
The real secret to having the life you want is learning to love the
life that you have.
