Signs it’s Time to Let Go- Anonymous

Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

Here are ten signs it's time to let go:


1.Someone expects you to be someone you're not. – Don't change who you are for anyone else. It's wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you're not. Because it's easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity. It's easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.

2. A person's actions don't match their words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don't match up with their words, it's time to let them go. It's always better to be alone than to be in bad company. True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time. Don't listen to what people say; watch what they do. Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.

3. You catch yourself forcing someone to love you. – Let us keep in mind that we can't force anyone to love us. We shouldn't beg someone to stay when they want to leave. That's what love is all about – freedom. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason,but never leaves without a lesson. If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.

4. An intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction. –Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance. It's about what you live for. It's about what defines you. It's about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique. It's about being who you are and living out your life honestly. It's about those little quirks that make you, you. People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won't stay by your side forever. But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.

5. Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to. When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you'll automatically get one of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life. Either way there's a positive outcome. Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do. In the end you'll discover who's fake,who's true, and who would risk it all for you. And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.

6. Someone continuously overlooks your worth. – Know your worth ! When you give yourself to someone who doesn't respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you'll never get back. There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people. If someone wants you in their life, they'll find a way to put you there. Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don't care for you the way you care for them. Let them leave your life quietly. Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on. We think it's too hard to let go, until we actually do. Then we ask ourselves, "Why didn't I do this sooner?"

7.You are never given a chance to speak your mind. – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it. Speak up for your heart so that you won't have regrets. Life is not about making others happy. Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others.

8. You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it. Know when to close the account. It's always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect. .

9. You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It's better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate. Don't let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours. The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart. Take risks. Don't just make the safe and easy choices because you're afraid of what might happen. If you do, nothing will ever happen. Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned. It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.

10. You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past. –Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain. Eventually you will realize that these secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time. After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story. So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.

And the one thing you should never let go of is hope. Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward. Someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn't turn out exactly the way you had anticipated. And you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, "How did I get through all of that?"

Beauty in the Empty- by Sam Davidson

I recently watched Running the Sahara, a moving film about three
extreme endurance athletes who ran across the Sahara Desert. All of
it. Like from one coast of Africa to the other.

The film was well made, well written, inspiring, and moving. It's one
of the better films and documentaries I've seen in quite a while.

Towards the end of their 4,500+ mile run, one of the runners said of
the Desert, "It's so arid here, and so empty. And so beautiful." This
comment paralleled his personal journey through the four-month ordeal.
He was physically empty, running on fumes past the pyramids toward the
Red Sea. And there was wonderful beauty in that for him. He spent it
all in order to gain something he could not lose. That feeling of
completion – at the expense of total exertion – was beautiful.

It's time we find beauty in the empty.

When you go to bed at night, exhausted beyond description from a day
at work, a day of parenting, or a day of living – that is beautiful.

Crying with a friend until there are no more tears is a solemn, sacred act.

Working out until your muscles cannot move so that your health will be
better tomorrow than it is today is worthy of admiration.

When you mourn the loss of something or someone, mourn well and mourn
completely.

Restlessness is a symptom of the disease known as
Not-trying-hard-enough. Get up. Get to work.

Panting and gasping for air after running up a hill or down a street
or through an airport is a chance to appreciate breath and the life it
gives.

Abandoned lots and empty hearts are not full of waste. They are full
of potential. It's time to plant something.

Love until you think you have no more love left. Love those who
deserve it and those who don't. Love until it hurts, until it costs
you something. You may very well find your love never runs out, but is
like an eternal flame that gets ever stronger the longer it burns.

Hope beyond reason for something better. Hope until your heart's
deepest longing cannot be satisfied by anything less than what the
universe is calling you toward.

Give away your last nickel to someone who needs it more than you. Know
that your poverty can make someone else whole.

And when your body aches and your head hurts, when your soul is weary
and your heart is exhausted – then, my friends, you will see the
beauty in the empty, of what it's like to give everything for
something that matters. And therein lies the indescribable beauty of a
life well lived.

Message From The Universe---- Carol James

I am your best friend. I am your confidant. You can tell me anything
at all and I will always understand and love you.

I know that you always do your very best and that sometimes your fears
get the best of you. I know that you have come a long way and have
grown and matured in immeasurable ways.

To me, you are a beautiful, bright shining light beaming with courage
and soul. I am always here for you, waiting at your beck and call.

Tell me what you want. Tell me all your dreams and I will be delighted
to help you live them. I can find people and arrange circumstances in
ways that you could never imagine.

Sometimes my orchestrations are called miracles, but I just see them
as doing my job. I am here for you. I have always been here for you,
even when you did not know I existed.

I am the one who brings people and circumstances to you. All that you
experience is a result of that which I bring to you. All that I bring
to you is a result of that which you ask for, even if you don't
understand how you are asking.

It's really a simple relationship we have, you and I. It's one of
master and slave, dreamer and dream maker. You are master and I am
slave. But I love my job. I get to grant your wishes for a living so
that's okay by me. Your wish is my command.

I am good at what I do. I am predictable, consistent, flexible, fluid,
accurate and timely. You can always depend on me to give you exactly
what you ask for when the timing is right.

Be careful what you ask for, you might get it. I don't decipher or
question your requests; I follow them to the letter. I am compelled to
bring to you all that matches what you focus on, regardless of how
that focus causes you to feel.

It doesn't matter whether you want it or not, because from my
perspective if you didn't want it you wouldn't be focusing on it, so
if you are focusing on it then you must want it.

My job is to find stuff that matches your tone - your point of focus -
and orchestrate the connection between you and it. From my
perspective, it's easy to see why you don't always like what you get,
but I know that eventually you will come to remember all that you have
forgotten.

In the meantime, I will continue to be here serving your needs and
fulfilling your wishes. I am here for you. Ask anything of me. I have
nothing to do but to serve you. The rest is up to you.

Don't Ever--Author Unknown

Don't Ever...

Don't ever be reluctant to show your feelings
When you're happy, give in to it...
When you're not, live with it

Don't ever be afraid to try to make things better
You might be surprised at the results.

Don't ever take the weight of the world on your shoulders.

Don't ever feel threatened by the future
Take life one day at a time.

Don't ever feel guilty about the past
What's done is done.
Learn from any mistakes you might have made.

Don't ever feel that you are alone
There is always somebody there
For you to reach out to.

Don't ever forget that you can achieve
So many of the things you can imagine.
It's not as hard as it seems.

Don't ever stop loving
Don't ever stop believing,
Don't ever stop dreaming your Dreams.

BEGIN AGAIN---- Collin McCarty

One of the best things we can do in our lives is this:
Begin again.

Begin to see yourself as you were
When you were the happiest and strongest you've ever been.

Begin to remember what worked for you
(and what worked against you),
And try to capture the magic again.

Begin to remember how natural it was when you were a child --
To live a lifetime each day.

Begin to forget the baggage you have carried with you
For years:
The problems that don't matter anymore,
The tears that cried themselves away,
And the worries that are going to wash away
On the shore of tomorrow's new beginnings.

Tomorrow tells us it will be here every new day of our lives;
And if we will be wise,
We will turn away from the problems of the past
And give the future -- and ourselves -- a chance
To become the best of friends.

Sometimes all it takes is a wish in the heart to let yourself ...
Begin again.

DIDN'T WRITE IT BUT I LIKE IT!

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born.

A Death Certificate shows that we died.

Pictures show that we lived!

Have a seat . . . Relax . . . And read this slowly...

I Believe...
That just because two people argue, that
doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they  don't  argue, that
doesn't mean they  do  love each other.

I Believe...
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends if
we understand that friends change.

I Believe...
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every
once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe....
That you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life..

I Believe...
That it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.

I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones with
loving words.. It may be the last time you see them.  (very very true)

I Believe...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...
That we are responsible for what
we do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe...
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to
be done, regardless of the consequences.

    I Believe...
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe...
That my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.

I Believe....
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you
When you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had,
and what you've learned from them...and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for
your grief.

I Believe...
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find
out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I Believe...
Two people can look at the exact same
thing and see something totally different.

I Believe...
That your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don't even know you..

I Believe...
That even when you think you have no more to give, if
a friend cries out to you...you will find the strength to help.

I Believe...
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...
That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything.

Thank you God for all the wonderful people who help us throughout the
journey of life...

God Bless You!

4 Steps to End Judgmental Thoughts :Elisha Goldstein

As soon as we open up our eyes in the morning, stories are running in
our minds that influence the way we see people. We have preconceptions
about who our wife, husband, kid, roommate or partners are. When we
walk out the door, we already have ideas about who the neighbors,
baristas, grocery store clerk, colleagues, and even strangers who are
walking up the street are.

So the question is: Do we actually even see the person behind our
conceptions of who they are? Most of the time the answer is a
resounding no.

Mother Teresa said, "The biggest disease today is not leprosy or
tuberculosis but rather the feeling of not belonging."

We live on auto-pilot in our every day relationships and our ability
to automatically interpret the world can lead to disconnection, which
leads to dis-ease in life.

It's that simple.

Here is a practice to try out today with anyone you come in contact with:

1. Put you lenses of judgment aside. Whether you believe it or not,
you instantly judge someone as soon as you see them. It may be the
color of their skin, their ethnicity, a memory you have of this person
or maybe the expression on their face. See if you can set that aside
for a moment and adopt fresh eyes.

2. See the person. This is someone who has a history of adventures,
sense of failure, loves, fears, regrets, triumphs, traumas, family,
and friends.

3. Ask yourself, what does this person most deeply want? The answer
is likely within you and it has something to do with being treated
kindly and feeling a sense of belonging.

4. Provide a gesture that feeds this need. Smile at the person; ask
them if you can help; listen to what they have to say; if its family
or friends, tell them you love them, etc. There are so many ways to do
this.

We can always ask ourselves if what we are doing is in service
of connection or disconnection. It's a simple question that can
sometimes lead to important answers and actions.

The fact is, when we or others around us feel understood and cared
about, a sense of acceptance and belonging arises. This breaks down a
barriers and simply makes relationships better. Like anything, this
takes practice.

A moment of connection may have rippling effects across many
people, like a pebble thrown into the water creates ripples of waves.
Give it a try!